Penny, I have noticed a stiff suspension as well. I previously was driving my 07 Chevy Tahoe and now driving this I am a bit on edge. In a good rain, I can see someone loosing control at a high rate of speed. There is definitely some play in the steering. I have yet to take a drink. You're not alone.
I own an 06 Gen2. After numerous test drives in the 2010 Gen3, I find the suspension stiff, more compliant and a rougher ride. The steeringis tighter which I feel makes the car feel heavier. The Cup Holders in the Gen2 are perfectly placed for me. I'm really torn on the Gen3 and think I will pass till the Gen4 - Plug-n-Play!
I agree, when the steering is to light it seems to lose all road feel. I think I prefer a little feedback.