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Discussion in 'Fred's House of Pancakes' started by qbee42, Jul 21, 2009.

  1. eclectcmoi

    eclectcmoi Muffinologist

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    Just my opinion, but most guys like this...? No. Some guys... yes. Men who value another person's feelings and wants and needs are out there. I found one... or actually he found me.

    I think it's very healthy for octavia to want a partner who contributes to a relationship. No one ever wants to feel like they are the only one putting effort into making things happen. If that's the way it is, you can start to feel like your relationship really doesn't matter to the other person and you end up feeling taken for granted.

    We all want to feel special and appreciated!
     
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  2. BigJay

    BigJay reh reh REH reh Torture them!

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    Ideally, in what way should a guy contribute to a relationship?

    List some specifics, because we guys are stupid like that. Then write that into a book, "What women really want but won't tell you in anything but the most general obfuscated terms", and you have a New York Times best seller.
     
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    Spectra Amphi-Prius

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    • There is such a book.
    • I have (actually, used to have) a copy.
    • It was given to me by my last GF ! (but I can't remember the name or author)
    I would pull it out whenever we had a disagreement .....
    which always broke the tension ..... :tongue1:




    "... or actually he found me."

    So, E-moi, maybe guys might actually get lucky in a bar ? ... ;)
     
  4. eclectcmoi

    eclectcmoi Muffinologist

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    It's the little things that show that another person's feelings and needs matter just as much as yours do. Isn't is nice when you know that someone is thinking of you? Or remembers what type of beer you like and brings you some back from the store, even though you didn't ask for it? Or perhaps pays attention when you mention a certain book, movie or (fill in the blank) and tries to make it happen for you?

    Really, it's just treating someone as you would like to be treated. I am this way with everyone in my life and not just my boyfriend. I really try not to take ANYONE in my life for granted. And may I add that I am blessed with some incredible people in my life. I experience first hand that you get out of relationships, what you put into them.

    I never in a million years would have thought that would happen, but it did. Though... I always tell my honey that I'm the lucky one! :D
     
  5. a_gray_prius

    a_gray_prius Rare Non-Old-Blowhard Priuschat Member

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    You don't date guys who know how to drift or dragrace then?
     
  6. Rae Vynn

    Rae Vynn Artist In Residence

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    I have found the "Mars/Venus" books very, very helpful.

    Not only in relating to the opposite sex, but also in talking to other women! It's good to be reminded of the automatic filters that most people generally have.
     
  7. hyo silver

    hyo silver Awaaaaay

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    If it's not a relationship of equals, with both giving significant contributions, I'm not interested.
     
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  8. DaveinOlyWA

    DaveinOlyWA 3rd Time was Solariffic!!

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    I AM IN LOVE!!!

    girl, packing up the car, should be there in a few hours!!
     
  9. Rae Vynn

    Rae Vynn Artist In Residence

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    .... and I'd so fall for you....

    Except, I've hiked with you, and I can't keep up. It just wouldn't work out in the long run... sorry, Hyo. But know that I'll always hold you dear in my heart. :hug:
     
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    DaveinOlyWA 3rd Time was Solariffic!!

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    what if it was just a "short jog?"
     
  11. Rae Vynn

    Rae Vynn Artist In Residence

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    I'm more of the long, slow distance type ;)
     
  12. DaveinOlyWA

    DaveinOlyWA 3rd Time was Solariffic!!

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    LOL!!....ooops...

    reread my post... definitely could have other unintended messages there
     
  13. jayman

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    Oh geez, get a room already!

    ;)
     
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    hyo silver Awaaaaay

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    Awww, that's very sweet of you Rae. :hug:

    And sorry, Dave, short jogs just don't do it for me. Built for speed and endurance is more my style. :p
     
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    F8L Protecting Habitat & AG Lands

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    Was listening to the radio today and I immediately thought of this thread when Ludacris (One More Drink) came on. lol


    Strolled through the front door headed to the VIP
    Bought a couple bottles and I took a couple sips
    Scoping out the room and what do I SEE?
    A nice round butt, an a pair a double D’s
    So I creped up like shorty wus happnin
    You killin that dress and I love it with a passion
    Then she turned around and her face was aight
    She had a gap toof and mean over bite
    But I was like hmmm…

    [Chorus:]
    Yeah yeah
    If I take one more drink, I’m gon end up ****** you
    (Just one mo)
    Is that what you wanna do shorty?
    (That's all its gon take)
    If I take one more drink, I’m gon end up ****** you
    (Who else T-Pain)
    You too

    [Ludacris:]
    You hear what I’m sayin
    People too picky these days damn it
    Too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny
    Have a couple of drinks and quit discriminating
    This has been a Luda Service Announcement
    Deuces


    Gotta love rap and it's simplicity. Hahaha
     
  16. Rae Vynn

    Rae Vynn Artist In Residence

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    I mentioned this thread to my DH, and his reply was, "Don't wait for a 10, remember, two 5s are more fun!"

    I couldn't talk him into posting that himself. sigh.
     
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    :)

    I think I missed something.... something about jogging? Wha?... errrr......


    :p

    What is drift?


    :cheer2:
    You are my hero!
    All that in a package that's fun to watch scale mountains.

    Le sigh.

    Only for those who can multi-task.... ^^
     
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    F8L Protecting Habitat & AG Lands

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    I LOVE to multi-task..... :D
     
  19. jayman

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    I was forced to learn multi-tasking, especially with all 3 at once.

    I may have to get a Stunt Double though. Not as young as I used to be
     
  20. qbee42

    qbee42 My other car is a boat

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    Tom