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My wife won't even get into the new Prius

Discussion in 'Gen 2 Prius Main Forum' started by Robert Taylor, Jan 17, 2005.

  1. daniel

    daniel Cat Lovers Against the Bomb

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    Last time I checked, people were not geese. The human animal is a very different creature than the goose animal. Not everything that works for geese works for humans.
     
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    I've often wondered about geese. Whenever they fly overhead, they're honking quite loudly at each other. For that matter, whenever they land on a golf course and poop everywhere, they still honk loudly at each other.

    My question: are they talking, or are they argueing?

    Mate for life. Think about it ...
     
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    This thread has truly gone all over the place as far as subject :)
     
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    Dear Sir,
    I'm not a mental health professional but I deal with many women who have "issues" and from your description, your wife is among them. Hiding the fob, smiling sweetly, keeping your opinions to yourself, etc, etc are not the strategies that will help you. Your wife's total disregard for (expensive) personal property and her dismissive attitude toward your attempts to share information with her indicate an underlying anger that is manifesting itself in bad behavior. I respectfully suggest anger management classes or joint counseling for the two of you to discover the root of her unhappiness. Then, perhaps you can both change whatever behaviors that are causing her to run amok. You may fall in love all over again and both drive off into Prius heaven.

    Mrs. Cookieface4750

    This is an add on to my wife's response. I was getting quite a kick out of the responses from other members which had an underlying humor about relationships with the inept descriptions of our wives. My addon comment is although I thought my wife's response was also funny, she is very serious!

    Mr. Cookieface4750

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    Good post! Nice dog ---> [​IMG]

    But does your dog really need that blanket in SoCal?
     
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    OMG I want a wiener dog! Very cute avatar, cookies.

    :)
     
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    You are looking at Aztec Poopsie (The Wonder Dog) It isn't a blanket, it is a cape with feathers and held on by cockle shells around his neck. On the cape are two Monty Montezuma patches, the mascot for the San Diego State Aztecs.
     
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    Just think about all the electricity she would generate [:)]
     
  9. Bob Allen

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    Robert: Good for you that she works out her abuse needs on your cars, and not on you. I think she should be held accountable for her driving; she sounds like a spoiled sorority preppie busy wrecking daddy's Jaguar and not ever having to be inconvenienced by having to deal with the consequences.
    I agree with all those who feel you are lucky she doesn't want to drive your Prius. I would never let someone with a track record like hers drive my new car unless it were an emergency....and it better be a real emergency.
    As persons, we are more than our driving, as another poster put it. She may be a lovely person in all other respects, and a delight to have as a wife. That said, that which distinguishes adults from children is responsibility for one's behavior. Hiding the fobs for your car would be perfectly appropriate behavior when dealing with a driver who can split tire belts on curbs....
    Good luck
     
  10. Robert Taylor

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    Mrs. Cookieface has hit the nail right on the head, but I CANNOT get her to go to anyone for any sort of counseling, help, etc. Even the parish priest was Totally Useless. She just isn't a happy camper unless she is buying stuff, which is why our home looks like a bipolar having an episode, its stuffed to the gills with goods we never use, much of it is actually unopened and unused. Everyone knows she is at her core just unhappy, money, good health, growing wealth, nice family, fancy vacations, travel, business success, nothing makes her happy. Life has its ups and downs, but she has been basically unhappy even when things peaked in the mid 90's, easy money, great health, no family problems...

    I have to draw the conclusion that its internal, not external reasons. (personally I think it comes from childhood, but she admits to zero reflection upon life's influences upon her present state)

    And sometime she is just a saint, we are unofficial foster parents right now for someone else's two year old. She likes the doing of routine, the feeling of accomplishment from work.

    The past two days she has hammered me on the cost, which is a wash financially because I was closing in on paying off a note for new business equipment.

    I'm open to any suggestions you have, I think you really hit the nail on the head and I am too close to the forest for the insights you have.

    Thanks

    Robert
     
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    Like Mrs. Cookieface, I am not a health professional. But from your response it would seem she is spot on. Unfortunately, like alcoholoics and drug addicts, you can't force her to help herself. My only suggestion is, I think, the same as Ann Landers and now the Annie's Mailbox ladies would give. If you can't get her to go for counseling with you, go by yourself. I can only imagine the stress you are under.

    With regard to the car, be glad she doesn't want to drive it. The front air dam would be shattered the first time she pulled up to a perpendicular parking space. Given your description of her driving, I think the final panel of a cartoon I once saw is appropriate. A man & woman driving as time passes:
    • I'm not sure you should even be IN a car she is driving, she sounds like an accident waiting to happen.
     
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    Wow, I was obviously lucky in the spouse department. Mine competes with me to see who can get the best gas mileage...

    Just wanted to throw in the observation that there may not necessarily be a concrete external reason why your wife is unhappy. In fact, from the fact that she was unhappy even when things were going great, I'd say it's likely that it's just a genetic thing. However, that doesn't mean it can't be treated--if you can persuade her to seek professional treatment.
     
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    I've noticed in myself that I buy "stuff" when I'm unhappy with work (which is a lot lately), Does she work?
    If she does then perhaps some light questions on if she is happy at her work.. if not then positive reinforcement on that subject will help heaps..

    If she doesn't work and doesn't need to look after childer, then find her a job she likes.. even a part time.. it makes all the difference in the world to a persons self respect!
     
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    My wife was disinterested in my Prius when I brought it home. Then she rode in it and remarked how quiet it was. Then she drove it. The dealer called me today - her new Prius gets in tomorrow.