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I had a MUCH worse reaction from the Shingles/Pneumonia shots.

You'll be fine.

 

So did I, that was a nightmare!

Thank God it lasts a lifetime

 

My Pfizer doses 1 and 2 were both completely uneventful, no discomfort of any kind beyond the needle prick.

Those left me in such a vaccine-happy mood I rushed right back out and got the first shot of Shingrix.

That didn't give me any of the systemic reactions reported by others, but boy, a blamed sore arm set in about three hours after the shot and hurt for about 14.

In a couple months I guess we'll see what 2nd Shingrix is like (or should I say "Two Shingrix"?), with my immune system still resentful after the first one.

 

My second Shingrix shot was no big deal, but I made the "pride goeth before the fall" mistake when I got the first dose by ALSO getting the PPSV23 (Pneumovax23®) shot.

Both of the side effects are roughly the same.....and compounding.
I had a rather robust reaction and spend an afternoon on the couch checking my eyelids for light leakage.

 

my second shingrix was much worse than the first. lasted about 3 days of severe flu like symptoms.

 

starting to feel just a little achy and tired. might be the stress of 2 1/2 hours in a waiting rom though...

 

yup

 

why did you fail at marriage ?

 

Losing a spouse does NOT count as "failing at marriage."

Similarly, I would NOT count those children from...say Gold Star families as coming from a "broken home."


Empathy: fail.

 

The only reason to ask, is if you really want to learn how to make it work. I sincerely doubt that's the motive for asking.

 

Me too.

 

a little achy and tired after 24 hours. tylenol helped, we'll see what tonight brings

 

the question was for my benefit, not your demise.

 

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That's a looooong time between @bisco posts.....

Y'OK ?

 

the lack of empathywas because the situation was described as "single parent" , not "widow/widower". as such, empathy was much farther from thought than "hey what can I learn to avoid from their situation ?".

if you lost a spouse I'm very sorry. I can't imagine the agony of losing the best person on the planet.

if you failed at marriage, and can teach others to avoid the failures, it's a huge benefit to them.

 

Military families breed single parents like a false understanding of religion breeds gross intolerance.

It's not just the Gold Star families, but rather sometimes it's the ones who get wounded and abandoned, for one reason or other.
Sometimes it's 18-month deployments.
Lousy pay.
Frequent moves.
PTSD (formerly known as "Crazy Nam Vets" by OTHER judgmental types....)

Other times, it's just a plain-old lack of sticktoitism that attends more than half of all marriages in non-military civilian lives.

This isn't the Stan, and in case nobody ever looped you into a little document I like to call the US Constitution, you cannot force a spouse to remain in a marriage that they do not want to remain in.
Legally.
Physically.
Ethically.

BTW...there's another often misinterpreted document that speaks to the subject of marriage in like manner that you may want to check out if you ever find yourself in a church.

Like the US Constitution, it's also widely available on-line.


ALL of THIS means that unless you're in some weird 13th century patriarchal society where women are treated like chattel property, it is VERY possible for some people out there to find themselves to be single parents without having "failed at marriage."

Birmingham, stereotypes notwithstanding, isn't one of them.

 

Well privilege, lets start with a bit of wisdom: "Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed."

Those are words to think about, for it's quite often true.

My first marriage, I thought that she'd mature and become a good mother. She did neither. I got the kids in the divorce. My second wife thought that she could change me and she was disappointed when I did not change. She wanted more kids, she knew I did not. By the time I met my third wife, both she and I were experienced enough to know that we had to accept each other the way we were, and to be willing to accept changes that may happen as we aged.

We've been together 31 years and counting. As my mom is fond of saying, we are the shaped by the sum of our experiences. Without the divorces I would not have been open to getting to know my current wife.

Understanding, respect and empathy are the keys to a long and happy union. A smart man will also recognizes that a marriage is a pact in which both husband and wife are equals.

 

two more tylenol at 4am. slept fairly well. tired and ach were gone this morning, and my arm is hardly sore.
i'll give it one more day before going back to my red wine regimen, as i've heard that some experience some discomfort up to 72 hours after the fact

 

I'll drink to that!

Bob Wilson

 

I see that as a distinction without a difference.

When my mother was a widow, she could just as validly been called a single parent. Maybe that is a cultural or regional difference.