eHarmony failure

I decided to give eHarmony a try after a friend told me she thought it was really better than the other sites. I spent half an hour or so filling out a very long and involved questionnaire as honestly as I could. When I was done, it told me (paraphrasing now, as I didn't save the actual screen) "We were unable to find any matches for you. This does not mean you are a bad person."

It didn't even try to talk me into becoming a member in the hopes that a match would turn up!

I'd probably be pretty depressed about that if I was not already depressed about my continued weight gain, and a little bit concerned because the doctor wants to poke holes in my eyes.

 

Interesting! -- OTOH eHarmony was just about the only dating site I had not tried previously, and the only responses I get are from Russian con artists. (When a 62-year-old man gets a picture of a drop-dead gorgeous 20-something woman in Russia, and the only text is "I love you," you can pretty much figure it's a scam.)

 

She's probably smart enough to run the other way when her radar tells her I am closer than 178 miles away.

Nope. Narrow angle. Risk of glaucoma. They're going to poke a hole in each iris with a laser. Right eye this Friday, left eye the following Wednesday, and an exam with dilation (which they don't want to do before drilling the holes) to check for detached or otherwise damaged retina, which my nearsightedness predisposes me for, and which is what set this whole thing off.

I didn't realize they were such pompous a-holes.

This is serious silliness. LOTS of people do not have "their own other" out there. Matches are not decreed by god or a sentient spirit of the universe. They happen when two people decide they are mutually compatible, and they succeed when those two people make a commitment to it. But there are gobs of people who are so repulsive (i.e. they repel others, whether due to physical or emotional/relational/psychological issues) that they are never able to find a mutually compatible person.

Lots of other folks get themselves into relationships with people who are not compatible, and the results are unhappy.

All my friends insist I'd be a great match. All my female friends insist I'd be a great match for somebody else. The fact that none of them think I'd be a good match for them tells me that I'm one of the people who repel others. The fact that I am no uglier than the average man tells me that it's one (or several) of the psychological/relational issues.

I'm a nice guy. I'm considerate and respectful. I'm intelligent and have a sense of humor. I have all the qualities that many women (those not looking for a Christian, a cowboy, or a redneck) say they want. Too bad mine are not the qualities they really want. All the single women friends I've had (people who like me and say I'd be a good match) have declined to go out with me, and I've even been turned down by single Prius-Chatters.

But if you're interested, let me know.

My cat died about 20 years ago. The cat in my avatar belongs (or belonged) to a Spanish pen pal, but my cat looked almost exactly like him. I travel too much now to keep an animal.

And just to prove that I'm not actually ugly, here's a picture of me, taken a couple of weeks ago.

 

I've bookmarked the site. I'll check it out. Thanks.

I answered all questions truthfully. Apparently they are not truthful, since they do not tell you up front that you have to be Christian to be accepted. I am an atheist, but the closest choice provided was something along the lines of "Not affiliated with any religion."

Pastafarian was not offered as a choice.