All the sites really end up being similar... it all depends on how you want to meet people on line. eHarmony connects you with a few people every day, and lets you go through a process of guided communication to get to know them (kinda like a test - multiple choice questions, then short answer) before you finally get to start e-mailing with them. There's no way to search for people or browse their membership. Match.com takes an opposite approach - They'll send you people they think you'll match well with, but they also let you openly browse and search their membership yourself. Communication starts straight with e-mails, so if you find it difficult to introduce yourself and start a conversation in this way, it might not be for you. Those are the two "major" sites out there, and probably the two best places to start. There are a surprisingly large number of smaller sites, a lot of which are regionally centered - you would have to do some google searches to see which ones focus on your city.
On-line dating can be fun if you go into it with an open mind and are not expecting every person you meet to be "the one." I did quite a bit of online dating, which ultimately resulted in a long term relationship. Though that relationship ended a few years ago, I met many interesting men some of whom are still friends. My current and will be my last boyfriend, I met the old fashioned way. He picked me up in a bar.
That is a good summary based on my experience as well. I will add that for picky people eHarmony can be frustrating. I was only sent recomendations of people that appeared to be twice my weight. That is superficial certainly but my body just does not respond to certain body types unfortunately. That immediately cuts my odds of finding a really great woman drastically. I enjoy Match.com much more. Window shopping for dates can be quite fun. lol
I personally don't feel that I'm one of those "wham, bam, slam Thank You Ma'am" kind of guys, but I've never really had any problem finding women just interested in fun Quite frankly, I'm happily single and see no reason to throw a monkey wrench into the works. I have a few women friends "with benefits" and we all agree to keep it very casual, no commitment or other problems required I also see no reason for me to reproduce, there are plenty of babies out there anyway. If you really want something to allow you to experience responsibility, friendship and caring, consider a pet. Works for me And quit trying so hard. Women can sense it a mile away. At a convention last year, I purposely ignored a woman in the lounge, and within 20 minutes we were back in my room, engaged in Mixed Wrestling Not to mention you can get some nasty carpet burns Yep, 100% true. I can personally vouch for it
It can definately work. Sometimes the ultra blunt method works too. I actually had a friend walk back up to a girl after a couple hours of failed "attempts" and say to her ""Look, you know you're going to go home, alone, and (insert word for alone play) while wishing there were a real guy there so why not just make it happen. I'm right here." I laughed at him and walked away then a couple minutes later I heard her arguing with her friend about taking my friend home. It would have totally worked but I wasn't going home with them as her friend was more like Jabba the Hut than a maiden. I'm a bad wingman, I know.....
I agree, Bigger girls need their loving, Just not by me.... I'm picky as well but, If she has a great body and has good values It's a win win situation.
Then sign up for Match.com mate. It can't hurt and you'll quickly get an idea of this will work for you or not and if it doesn't then you're only out $50 or so (2 months of service). I get about a dozen winks or emails a week (I've been on there a long awhile so my numbers drop) so it's a good way to kill time and meet people. More than I could meet at a bar or club for sure.
From what I've seen I get the feeling you might like www.democraticmatch.com, also www.salon.com has personals. My bro has been married for more than eight years after meeting his wife on match.com. Well she wasn't his wife when he met her. And two of my friends have been married for 1.5 years to guys they met on match.com. It can definitely work.
